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Take that, Eve Ensler!

3day weekend!! omgz!

Gung Hay Fat Choy!

I'm in a pretty copacetic, almost excellent mood. And, Kids say the darnedest things!


    [00:42] destruktolux: Have you ever read any of Tom Perotta's books?
    [00:42] destruktolux: he wrote the novel Election
    [00:42] destruktolux: also the novel that the movie Little Children is based on
    [00:42] destruktolux: I've read about most of Little Children. It's surprisingly good
    [00:42] kaffeinatrix: little children?
    [00:43] kaffeinatrix: hm
    [00:43] destruktolux: yeah
    [00:43] destruktolux: the movie has this great way of having rich adult characters and showing them with deep seated resentments toward their own children
    [00:43] destruktolux: which I think is kind of fun in a guilty pleasure sense
    [00:44] kaffeinatrix: ooh
    [00:44] kaffeinatrix: :)
    [00:44] destruktolux: I mean, I can't even mention that the book has parents that resent their kids to some people. It really seems offensive to people.
    [00:44] kaffeinatrix: hell no, I am a huge fan of resentment of any kind
    [00:45] destruktolux: hehe
    [00:46] destruktolux: I dunno, maybe it's something you find in conservative southern society
    [00:46] destruktolux: everyone's all about poopin' out the kids and it's the most important thing EVAR
    [00:46] destruktolux: I know people who've put up with no end of shit for saying that they just don't feel like they want kids in life, you know?
    [00:46] destruktolux: how do you deal with THAT?
    [00:48] kaffeinatrix: i don't know. i mean, i'm 34 and unmarried/able and totally too self-absorbed to ever deal with a child. Being part of the, hm. I don't know, the end is nigh and i'm not part of the problem, at least.
    [00:49] destruktolux: I dunno, I think you live a lifestyle that is just distant from the typical thing
    [00:49] destruktolux: and I think that's fine
    [00:49] kaffeinatrix: shit i know
    [00:49] kaffeinatrix: well yea
    [00:49] kaffeinatrix: but
    [00:50] kaffeinatrix: most of the greatest, smartest people i know are, hm. Unlikely to ever pass along their dna or knowledge to a child.
    [00:50] kaffeinatrix: I think I see my creative outlet as something other than my vagina.
    [00:50] kaffeinatrix: (oh, snap!)
    [00:50] destruktolux: that's possible
    [00:50] destruktolux: and I think equitable
    [00:50] destruktolux: that's a great way of putting it :)

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trinsf
Feb. 19th, 2007 09:20 am (UTC)
Just as an aside, I am a parent willing to cop to feeling resentful towards my children sometimes. *heh* But yes, it's shocking to people, especially if you admit to feeling that way as a parent.
caffeina
Feb. 19th, 2007 11:44 am (UTC)
Yeah, my whole thing is just feeling totally unsuited for raising an awesome human being. I've been told that's what everyone feels before they take the plunge and that it's awesometastic and super empowering...

As I'm fast approaching (fneh!) aging, childless spinsterhood without a hint of a ticking biological urge to bear fruit, I'm glad that other people (cough Present Company Most Inclusive cough) are happily and creatively putting intelligent cool kids on the planet.
caffeina
Feb. 19th, 2007 11:49 am (UTC)
additionally
My mom was fond of saying many things to me on the matter, as it happens:
  • I should've raised Chinchillas...
  • Parents get too much of the credit and too much of the blame
  • I'm glad that you turned out to be a person I genuinely like instead of (gasp) some cheerleader type
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