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Something I said to someone I know.

Dude, omg, this rocks.

I like it when this shit happens for people, and they're all "HOLY SHIT" about it. When you step back, you see all these scared shitless people running around in circles. Humanity is so fucked up, it's beautiful.

Take a risk. Risk everything. Risk is the only way to test yourself, make sure you are really, truly alive. There is pain at the end of everything, and the worst that could happen often does but you know what? Fucking hell, it's all there is. I mean, i'm babbling, fine whatever, but the only real thing you have is now and the decisions you make define who you are from moment to moment, so be the ballsy punk rock motherfucker you'll look back and admire, not the cautious tool letting fear own his every motivation. Or whatever. I think the only thing really worth knowing is how to connect and communicate with others, so I'm a little retarded.

And now back to your regularly scheduled cynical Kamio
I can totally see where you're coming from on the kids issue. I don't want children, and I never have. I don't see that changing, and I think I would be a horrible parent so it's all for the best. I have great admiration for this pearl of wisdom which dropped from the lips of a new friend last week as we picked purposefully through a rack of skimpy $1 underwear in a factory-2-U store:
Me: (responding to a young, totally disinterested, glassy-eyed mother who completely ignored her WAILING, SHRIEKING, HIDEOUS baby as she wandered through the store) "Why do people have children? I mean, honestly, do they feel like the HAVE to?"
My Friend, without missing a beat: "I'd rather have a tapeworm."

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colubra
Jun. 16th, 2004 07:06 pm (UTC)
oh yeah, baby, tapeworm!
metaphorge
Jun. 16th, 2004 08:20 pm (UTC)
Take a risk. Risk everything. Risk is the only way to test yourself, make sure you are really, truly alive. There is pain at the end of everything, and the worst that could happen often does but you know what? Fucking hell, it's all there is. I mean, i'm babbling, fine whatever, but the only real thing you have is now and the decisions you make define who you are from moment to moment, so be the ballsy punk rock motherfucker you'll look back and admire, not the cautious tool letting fear own his every motivation. Or whatever. I think the only thing really worth knowing is how to connect and communicate with others, so I'm a little retarded.

That was beautiful.
caffeina
Jun. 16th, 2004 09:19 pm (UTC)
Verklemmt! Thank you.
Whoa... maybe it's all the italics talking, but I love you, man!

But actually, re-reading it, i'm kind of impressed that I came up with anything quite so... worthy of the <i> tag. Thank you!
djdigit
Jun. 16th, 2004 09:30 pm (UTC)
Indeed!
I could do to take that advice... fuck fear. My number one demon, I think.
hep
Jun. 16th, 2004 11:15 pm (UTC)
i totally agree re: fear. I actually did that with my first kid, tying this into your second topic. I think I am a super good parent and am raising my kids totally cool, but I totally think people who don't kids should AT ALL be pressured into having them (re: the often heard childfree complaint) More to power people NOT having kids. There are too many unwanted, badly raised (like the one in your entry) kids out there already. :)
caffeina
Jun. 16th, 2004 11:30 pm (UTC)
Yeah! Kudos for kidrearing in a cool way. My feelings about kids have to do with knowing how unprepared I am to do a good job, and cool parents? They can busy themselves making awesome people, and i'm all about chilling with other people's kids. My feeling is that I might still be able to have a positive impact on kids, but as a teacher, or mentor type. So if the big "Must procreate, must spawn" urge never comes for me, I can still make a dent in the next generation of freaks, or something.
sarakate
Jun. 17th, 2004 07:21 am (UTC)
Yes yes yes, if you don't want kids, for goodness sake don't have them. It's not like there's a shortage! MUCH better to be someone's wacky "auntie" who swoops in and does completely cool, slightly subversive stuff with the kids. And this is, mind you, coming from a parent of two. I love my kids, but I'm aware that not everybody does and not everybody's cut out to be a parent -- it's not like parenthood is some virus which with I have to infect everyone I know, the way it apparently is with some people.
khrist_atlanta
Jun. 17th, 2004 12:11 pm (UTC)
Hope you don't mind me crashing your LJ. I'm a friend of Mopmonster :).

I just wanted to say right f*cking on! From January 2000-December 2002, I was one of those idiots who was ruled by fear. I was practically a prisoner in my own home. Kinda understandable given that our apartment complex was turning into Crackville, but I digress... Even when really cool opportunities came by, I'd sit and kill any chance of going for it with the what-ifs. Then, I moved out of Crackville and life has been great ever since. I've tried to be more open to new experiences and it's helped me reconnect with my fellow humans. I don't have the most active social life in the world, but at least I have one now with real friends here who love me.

About kids... I applaud people who want to remain childfree. It's all about making the best decision for your future, not bending to the wills of others. I want kids myself, but that's because I know for certain that my husband and I will be involved parents, not the glassy-eyed [and frighteningly all too common] example of a poor excuse for a parent that you gave. I won't see my children as status symbols, fashion accessories, or mealtickets [no public assistance for me - I'm young, strong, and able to work]. I hope that you are always happy with your decision and that people will respect your life choice. If they want kids around so damned bad, THEY can have them and leave you alone!
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